Body image, Physical/medical health

Two fabulous reasons why looking at your vulva can improve your sex drive.

It’s one of the VERY FIRST things that Emily Nagoski’s “Come as you are” book recommends.

And she’s the expert, so its possible that its pretty important.

I’ve heard lots of people say it.

Get to know your pussy. Love your famwa. Get intimate with your vagine.

And just to put my two-pence in, I also think taking a good look at your fanny and getting to know her is key to improving your sex drive.

I know. Because I’ve done it.

So here’s two reasons why you should look at yours, TODAY, and get to know her better.

  1. Because we tend to only see a certain type of vulva and can feel ashamed of our own if it doesn’t fit the mould!

We’re often conditioned since children to be ashamed of our vaginas (did anyone else call theirs a “front bottom”- arg!), and with the rise of things like vagina-plasty etc, even our vag’s aren’t safe from the judgmental eyes of society and fashion trends. Yuck!

The only vulvas we usually ever see are those of porn stars, and those ladies are paid to have fabulous looking fannies.

I personally CBA with all the waxing, pulling, prodding and pain to have a fuzz-free fanwa, and so I tend to feel like its not too attractive down there because it doesn’t fit the modern stereotype of what the perfect vagina looks like.

But its SO important to LOVE your pussy!

It’s a life giving, creative, beautiful, sexual part of your body. And we all don’t look at or worship the pussy enough.

Honestly, look at her everyday- fall in love with her.

Nourish her, play with her, do kegels to wake her up.

Also, look at other womens pussies too! (Obv only with their permission!)

It’s SUPER empowering to see other women’s vaginas too! For this, I’d reccommend an art project called the “Great Wall of Vagina”. They take plaster molds of over 400 vulvas, and they are beautiful! The website states:

“Female genitalia have long been a source of fascination, recently of celebration but generally of confusion. Today it seems that creating images of the vagina is the sole preserve of pornographers, erotic artists and feminists. Step in British artist Jamie McCartney who has grasped the nettle to create a monumental wall sculpture all about this most intimate of places. For 400 women their privates have gone public…”

Take a moment to look at the other vaginas. A patchwork of shapes, sizes, textures, angles, and ALL beautiful! I found it really eye opening to see the HUGE range of fannies, and it was great to think of mine as just as lovely 🙂

2. Because your partner probably looks at it more than you do!

When I read “Come as you are”,  I sniggered about checking my vagina. Of course I already do, I thought to myself. I live with her day in day out- see her when I shower, shave, pee… Then I thought again….I can see the front, and sort of inside, but the last time I properly looked I was about 15. And I mean PROPERLY looked- mirror out, legs akimbo, sexual health education book instructions followed…. that kind of look. But that was fifteen years ago! AND I realised my boyfriend probably knows her much more intimately than I do. And thats not right.

So, I found myself squatting in the bathroom this morning, mirror in hand and bending down to behold my vulva in its full glory.

And when I did look, I was pleasantly surprised! Even thought it was a little bit beautiful, if I say so myself.

I honestly found the experience hugely empowering.

I feel much more body positive about having a vagina- its amazing! AND clear about what it looks like for him when my boyfriend goes down on me. No wonder he loves it 🙂

On this topic, there’s also a Vagina Museum opening up- check out their site as it looks like a great idea!

So go on, get that mirror out like you’re fifteen and embrace that fanny! What did you find when you look at your/others vaginas?

I’m dying to know- tell me in the comments!

Love,

xx

P.S. Check out this amazing guide from Brook called “So what is a vulva anyway?”  for a great guide to understanding more about what’s what.

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