Our libidos go up and down at different times.
For some women, this happens to coincide not with the earths gravitational pull or when Simon Cowell appears on the Xfactor, but with different stages of our menstrual cycles.
Being on our periods can make us SUPER horny- and there ain’t nuttin wrong with period sex!
But for others, it can mean taking a temporary vow of chastity whilst we navigate severe cramps, bad moods and an extreme desire for chocolate (rather than sex).
So, is there any official link between your menstrual cycle and how horny you are?
Apparently (according to science) because of the rise and fall of different hormones during your cycle, there IS a link between the time of the month and how up for sex you are. For SOME women.
To help explore this more, here’s a handy infographic about what happens during your monthly cycle …
NOTE: Not everyone has a 28 day cycle, or fits completely within these dates or experiences.
So according to science, we’re more likely to want sex from days 8-14 of our monthly cycle (week two basically, just after our periods).
BUT, we’re also less likely to want sex during week three.
To know more… start tracking
To find out whether this is true for you, tracking your periods can help you understand more about yourself and your own patterns and rhythms.
There are tons of apps online that track periods, including Flo (which I’d recommend).
Most apps help you to work out how long your individual cycles are, record any kinds of moods or symptoms of your periods (including how high your sex drive is!), works out when your next period is and are a great way of keeping on top of your period generally.
The interface of this particular one is really cute too!
Mapping out when your period is predicted to start is a really good plan anyway- if you get PMS it’s ideal to have it marked in your diary so you know in advance which week to take it a bit easy on yourself (and provides a more rational explanation for why you’re sobbing uncontrollably about there being no coffee in the house).
But also, if you mark when you’ve had sex and compare that to when your period is, you should start seeing whether there are any patterns for you personally.
Using this knowledge means you can begin to plan your sex life a little better, be kinder to yourself, and not feel bad if your desire goes up and down over time.
Knowing that not wanting sex is NORMAL for you during certain times of the month, letting you know you’re not broken- just hormonal- can be really empowering.
Do you find your period affects your desire?