Our libidos go up and down at different times.
For some women, this happens to coincide not with the earths gravitational pull or when Simon Cowell appears on the Xfactor, but with different stages of our menstrual cycles.
Being on our periods can make us SUPER horny- and there ain’t nuttin wrong with period sex!
But for others, it can mean taking a temporary vow of chastity whilst we navigate severe cramps, bad moods and an extreme desire for chocolate (rather than sex).
So, is there any official link between your menstrual cycle and how horny you are?
Apparently (according to science) because of the rise and fall of different hormones during your cycle, there IS a link between the time of the month and how up for sex you are. For SOME women.
To help explore this more, I’ve made this handy infographic about what happens during your monthly cycle …
NOTE: Not everyone has a 28 day cycle, or fits completely within these dates or experiences.
BLOODY FANTASTIC! (sorry, I couldn’t resist)
So according to science, we’re more likely to want sex from days 8-14 of our monthly cycle (week two basically, just after our periods).
BUT, we’re also less likely to want sex during week three.
To know more… start tracking
To find out whether this was true for me, I started tracking my periods to understand more about myself and my own patterns and rhythms.
There are tons of apps online that track periods, although I can thoroughly recommend Flo (I’ve been using it for years- and no they haven’t paid me for this post!).
This app helps you to work out how long your individual cycles are, records any kinds of moods or symptoms of your periods (including how high your sex drive is!), works out when your next period is and is a great way of keeping on top of your period generally.
The interface of this particular one is really cute too!
Mapping out when my period is predicted to start is ace- I get SUCH bad PMS it’s good to mark it in my diary so I know in advance which week I need to take it a bit easy on myself (and provides a more rational explanation for why I’m sobbing uncontrollably about there being no coffee in the house).
But also, if you mark when you’ve had sex and compare that to when your period is, you should start seeing whether there are any patterns for you personally.
Strangely, I found that when I did fancy sex (as common as a blue moon at the moment!) it was directly before my period. And I reaaaalllly didn’t want it in the week after my period.
I’m exactly the opposite of the above, but hey, that’s me!
Using this knowledge means you can begin to plan your sex life a little better, be kinder to yourself, and not feel bad if your desire goes up and down over time.
Knowing that not wanting sex is NORMAL for you during certain times of the month, letting you know you’re not broken- just hormonal- can be really empowering. I’d definitely recommend it!