4. Sex, stress and a busy life,  5. Body Image,  6. Physical health,  Exercise

Running for lazy bitches: why it’s good for a slow libido

From previous posts you’ll know that I’m not an “exercise person”. In fact, I’m far from it.

But as a result of understanding more about why we exercise (hint: literally outrunning stress) I’ve begun running!

Why running?

Our physical and emotional well-being is so tied to our sexual wellbeing that, well, they’re basically the same thing.

Exercise not only increases our physical strength and ability, it also positively impacts on stress levels, anxiety, depression, sleep, confidence… basically all the ingredients needed for a healthy sex drive.

So being in good physical and mental shape is also key not only to looking better, but actually feeling better.

And my humble belief is, the better you feel in yourself, you’re more likely to desire sex.

Positive changes

If you’ve seen me hitting the streets of London, I can only apologise for my lack of a decent sports bra

However, I’ve seen some really positive changes since taking up exercise in which I feel better in myself (as yet, no weight loss benefits, possibly more muscle). But more than that it’s about how you feel inside.

Exercise gives you a clean, light feeling- your muscles become leaner so even walking gets a bit easier, and doing even a little bit means you are getting back into your body and out of your head. It also increases your confidence- I’ve come further than I’ve ever come before by just doing a bit each time.

Running for lazy bitches

Now, I know actually motivating yourself to exercise is totally shit.

I’m still not great at it, but I’m learning that basically, there is no secret powder or magic word to get you going- you just have to bloody well do it. No excuses.

However, if you really want motivation, picture yourself having the best, most intense orgasm you’ve ever had and losing yourself in how great it feels (like in the movies). Wanna go running now knowing exercise boosts your libido? It’s worth it!

Actually having the drive to get off the sofa, however, is another issue.

So, my top 4 tips for running for lazy bitches like me is:

  1. Pack your stuff/lay out your clothes the night before

It’s a bitch to get the motivation to go running when it’s cold/dark/bed is warm/you can’t be arsed. So pack your stuff where you can see it when you wake up and it’s less effort finding it all and getting ready.

2. Buy yourself some new running stuff

Decathlon do some really cheap and super comfy running clothes- £9.99 for the sexiest, cloud like running tights I’ve ever worn. Stock up one thing a month if needed. But a new kit is such a motivator for getting out there.

3. Be your own coach

Any attempt at running previously always involved a training programme like Couch to 5K, or using a trainer/app or going to Park Run. These have always ended disastrously because I either get frustrated at the slow pace or give up because it’s too hard. Nothing felt just right.

However, when I started looking more into natural rhythms and aligning my body more with nature (yes it sounds like bonkers hippy stuff, but it makes some sense too!) I’ve started just running and listening to my body as I go.

This means that I:

  •  Tune in to what my body needs as I run
  • Stop when I want to stop
  • Walk if I feel the need to
  • Don’t judge myself
  • Just go with what my body wants.

It has really helped me to not feel pressured by anyone or anything, I know I’m at the pace I need to go and the only person that knows my progress is me. Sure some days I run much less than others, but some days when I feel on top form I’ll push myself more than I’ve done before.

The best thing is knowing that there is no pressure on me at all to do a certain distance, speed etc– and I can finish my run whenever I want to. Without the expectation on myself I find I’m free to go at a comfortable pace, and I’m more likely to want to exercise again at the end.

Also, going from 0 fitness to running 5k in six weeks ain’t bad!

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4. Use podcasts to run to

For added motivation to exercise, run along to podcasts (The Guilty Feminist is great!). If you save them up and only listen to them when you run, you’ll look forwards to the next installment which will encourage you to get out and about again. Genius!

The only downside is looking like a crazy person and laughing out loud whilst you run…

5. Don’t blame yourself/stop if you miss one

Who cares- you’re still lapping old you that was sat on the sofa! Don’t cry over split milk, get out there and go again when you can be arsed.

So, good luck getting out there! Let me know how you get on… any tips for exercise motivation gladly accepted….

xx

 

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