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Improving sex within a relationship Issues with the sex you are (or were) having​ Take control of your sex life Too little intimacy Waking up to pleasure Waking up your body

How a “pussy massage” can save your sex drive….

Layla Martin, an acclaimed sexuality coach and tantra expert, calls the pussy massage a way to experience “exquisite pleasure and healing”. Before you go to running to the hills at the sound of tantra and pussies and voodoo, give this particular exercise a chance because it can do wonders for desire.  Have a read below …

Anxiety Body Image and self-esteem Connecting to your sexuality Improving sex within a relationship Learning to stay present and enjoy sex Waking up to pleasure

#10 tips on how to relax and surrender into sex

It can be incredibly difficult to feel completely relaxed when having sex. Whether that’s because of distracting thoughts or fear of judgement from our partners, actually being ourselves and feeling free in bed seems almost impossible. Below are 10 tried and tested ways to help you feel more relaxed and enjoy losing yourself in the …

Asking for what you want Connecting to your sexuality Improving sex within a relationship Taking responsibility for your own sexual pleasure

What’s holding you back from speaking out in bed?

If you are totally RUBBISH at talking dirty. Like this kind of level of awkward: Then you’re not alone. So many of us find it tough to “talk dirty”- which basically just means telling our partner what we like and feels good for us in bed. Let’s get diiiirty However, talking dirty is actually a …

Improving sex within a relationship My journey Relationships Too little intimacy

Is resentment killing your desire? Here’s how to resolve it.

“Resentment is the persistent feeling that you’re being treated unfairly – not getting due respect, appreciation, affection, help, apology, consideration, praise, or reward.”-Steven Sosny Unresolved resentment we carry towards our partners can have a MAJOR impact on our desire, and yet it’s one we talk about very little. Resentment closes down desire because it causes us …

Debunking relationship and sex myths Improving sex within a relationship Relationships

Why a lack of seduction might be what’s turning you off, and how to fix it!

For the benefit of the people at the back I present to you exhibit A in the case of the missing sex drive: the phrase… “fancy giving me a blowie?”. If you’ve lost your sex drive, this might be to do with your partners *ahem* less than seductive request for a shag. In fact, this is …

Attraction Improving sex within a relationship Relationships

What is the “Coolidge Effect” and why it might be putting the deep freeze on your hot sex plans.

There is a very stubborn misconception that exists around sex in long term relationships. That good sex will “just happen”. And that if you need to work at it, your relationship or you have somehow failed. However, if you’re finding yourself feeling like the sex has got a little “meh”, or your attraction to your …

Improving sex within a relationship Issues with the sex you are (or were) having​ Relationships Take control of your sex life

How to have more sex by stopping having sex!?

If we don’t fancy having sex, it can get to the point where it’s “a big deal”. We can start associating sexual pressure even with the smallest acts of affection by our partners. It can feel like every single hug, kiss, brush past or shuffle on the sofa has an ulterior motive. We shy away …

Debunking relationship and sex myths Improving sex within a relationship Issues with the sex you are (or were) having​ Relationships Too much intimacy

Why a pre-breakfast sex request can spell disaster for your libido

Frosties….. shreddies…. sex? For some women, there are few words in the English language that give them more dread than when their partner utters the phrase: “can we have sex tonight?“. Often casually spoken over the sounds of buttering toast and rustling cereal, a pre-breakfast sex request can be a real turn off. Why can this …

Anxiety Improving sex within a relationship Issues with the sex you are (or were) having​ Mood/wellbeing Pain or discomfort during sex Physical health Sex and Stress Take control of your sex life

Are you caught in a sexual avoidance cycle?

 Sometimes we get stuck into patterns and habits around sex that are hard to see, and even harder to break. An incredibly common one is what Jessa Zimmerman calls the “sexual avoidance cycle”. This is how desire is impacted in the longer term by the quality of the sex that we are (or were) having. …

Anxiety Improving sex within a relationship Learning to stay present and enjoy sex Mood/wellbeing Sex and Stress Too little intimacy Waking up to pleasure

“In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”.

“In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”- Sexology (film) Sex is about allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Surrendering and releasing control. Being pleasured and finding pleasure. That ability to be present, to let go and relinquish control, to give over to pleasure and let the waves of sex sweep …