Once upon a time there was a girl who lived on a diet of coffee, adrenaline and busyness. She worked in a somewhat un-fairy-tale-esque high pressured job in London, studied for an MA part-time and lived in a shabby shared flat in the East End. That girl was me. And unlike in the movies where… Read More Stress killed my sex drive. Here’s how I got it back…
We’ve all got them. The lurkers at the back of our closets. The last-to-be-picked, laundry day style, whip it out when you’ve got nothing else type of things. I’m talking about bad pants. You know what I mean. The comfort pants. The period pants with suspect stains on them. The fun Christmas pants with the… Read More Toss aside your old, holey knickers and make way for an amazing new you!
When I first started out researching my flagging sex drive, I spent HOURS trying to work out “how to feel sexy”. I was tits deep in Cosmo, Red, Elite Daily and Bustle trying to figure out just what other women do to feel sexy. I kept wondering blankly- what makes me feel sexy? And all… Read More Why writing an “unsexy” list is the smart secret to feeling sexy!
Stress is like a ninja. I’m sure you know the feeling. One minute you’re coping, bossing at life, merrily bumbling along. The next you’re tits deep in unread emails, missed calls, a full laundry basket, copious social plans and an empty bank account three days after pay day. Stress interrupts when you least expect it.… Read More 3 things I’ve learned about stress and my sex drive
Do you live life on autopilot- rushing around, always crazy busy, and rarely stopping to breathe? Is sex the last thing you need to tick off on an already long to-do list at the end of each day? Do you end up exhausted, flopping into bed and trying to get yourself psyched up for… Read More This is a major warning sign that you’ve become “too busy” for sex
Yesterday I happened to look round into a mirror, and felt horror at what I saw. I noticed all my bumps, lumps and flaws, and I thought- how can someone who looks like me ever be sexy? And if I don’t feel sexy, how will I ever feel like having sex? Your thoughts and feelings… Read More Sexiness is ALL about how you feel and not about how you look.
Lets be honest. Sometimes sex feels like a chore. Its late… the dogs watching… it feels like a lot of effort… you just want to go to sleep. It’s easy for it to fall to the bottom of your to-do list, or as the final activity left to complete at the end of a busy day.… Read More Seven ways to reframe sex so it becomes essential to your everyday wellbeing…
As it’s #selfcare week, I wanted to cordially remind you of the importance of sexual self care. No you dirty bugger- it’s not just about wanking (although, that is kinda part of it). Well, if it’s not about wanking, what is it? Sexual self care is about all increasing your wellness. So particularly when you’re… Read More Why you should practise sexual self care (and no- it’s not as rude as it sounds!)