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How to find out what turns you on How to get sexy without pressure or expectation How to have better sex How your relationship health impacts on desire, and how to improve it Too much intimacy

The magic formula for igniting your desire for when sex just isn’t satisfying

Is it really “low desire”, or just low desire for the sex that you’re having?- Dr Lori Brotto When we talk about having a low sex drive, we tends to focus on the woman that’s “broken”. We assume there is something wrong with her- rather than considering the sex she is …

How to get sexy without pressure or expectation How to have better sex How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality How to wake up your body to sexuality/pleasure Issues with the sex you are (or were) having​ Too little intimacy

Try a “pussy massage” when you want to connect but don’t feel like sex….

Layla Martin, an acclaimed sexuality coach and tantra expert, calls the pussy massage a way to experience “exquisite pleasure and healing”. Before you go to running to the hills at the sound of tantra and pussies and voodoo, give this particular exercise a chance because it can do wonders for …

How to have better sex How your relationship health impacts on desire, and how to improve it My journey Too little intimacy

How to stop resenting your partner so that you actually want to have sex with them again!

“Resentment is the persistent feeling that you’re being treated unfairly – not getting due respect, appreciation, affection, help, apology, consideration, praise, or reward.”-Steven Sosny Unresolved resentment we carry towards our partners can have a MAJOR impact on our desire, and yet it’s one we talk about very little. Resentment closes down …

Debunking relationship and sex myths How to have better sex How your relationship health impacts on desire, and how to improve it

The best shortcut to a great sex drive begins with this….

“For women, the best aphrodisiacs are words. The G-spot is in the ears. He who looks for it below there is wasting his time.”― Isabel Allende, Of Love and Shadows For the benefit of the people at the back I present to you exhibit A in the case of the missing …

Attraction and the link to desire How to have better sex How your relationship health impacts on desire, and how to improve it

What is the “Coolidge Effect” and why it might be putting the deep freeze on your hot sex plans.

There is a very stubborn misconception that exists around sex in long term relationships. That good sex will “just happen”. And that if you need to work at it, your relationship or you have somehow failed. However, if you’re finding yourself feeling like the sex has got a little “meh”, …

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How the 5 Love Languages can help you communicate whats missing in your relationship

Do you know how you give and receive love? There are apparently five main ways we do so in our relationships. These are known as the Five Love Languages, developed by Gary Chapman. And they can seriously improve your relationship AND your sex life. Now, you might think- how can …

How to get sexy without pressure or expectation How to have better sex How your relationship health impacts on desire, and how to improve it Issues with the sex you are (or were) having​

How to take the pressure and expectation out of sex (and ramp up your desire) by using this amazing method!

If we don’t fancy having sex, it can get to the point where it’s “a big deal”. Up until now, sex has either meant rejecting your partner, or giving in to sex that you may not really want to keep them happy. So we start to avoid situations where we …

How your relationship health impacts on desire, and how to improve it Too much intimacy Tools

A fear of intimacy: are we more afraid of being sexually wild the closer we get to a partner?

Do you know Layla Martin? If you don’t already, you should. She’s an amazing American sex therapist that writes and vlogs about sexual empowerment. And her latest video, “7 Ways to re-ignite passion in a low sex relationship” is a great resource for those of us struggling with our desire. …

How your relationship health impacts on desire, and how to improve it Too much intimacy

More intimacy doesn’t always mean better sex

Esther Perel is a brilliant sex therapist who writes ground breaking stuff about sex, relationships and desire. And although common knowledge seems to be that more intimacy means a better relationship, Perel believes that this can also spell disaster for our desire. Perel’s genius Perel’s view is that at the heart of …

Debunking relationship and sex myths How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality How to take responsibility for your own sexual pleasure How your relationship health impacts on desire, and how to improve it

Do you believe these 3 myths about sex? If so, they could be killing your sex drive

There are some really unhelpful beliefs in society about sex, that might be killing your desire. Do you recognize any of them? Myth One: “Foreplay begins just before having sex” We all know the drill right? Women need longer than men to get warmed up for sex- say about 20 minutes …

Debunking relationship and sex myths How to have better sex How your relationship health impacts on desire, and how to improve it Issues with the sex you are (or were) having​ Too much intimacy

Why a pre-breakfast sex request can spell disaster for your libido

Frosties….. shreddies…. sex? For some women, there are few words in the English language that give them more dread than when their partner utters the phrase: “can we have sex tonight?“. Often casually spoken over the sounds of buttering toast and rustling cereal, a pre-breakfast sex request can be a real …

How to ask for what you want (to be sexually assertive) How your relationship health impacts on desire, and how to improve it Too little intimacy

5 tips on how to talk to your partner about a mismatch in desire

If you’re reading this post, it’s likely that you’ve already communicated with your partner in some way about a mismatch in desire. How did you handle it? Hopefully maturely, sensibly, and with lots of communication. If you’re anything like me, however, it will have gone terribly- crying, silence, denial, anger, …

How your relationship health impacts on desire, and how to improve it Too little intimacy

Do you recognise any of these 50 warning signs that you take each other for granted?

Is the romance dead? Feeling undervalued can have a big impact on your desire. We all want to feel special, appreciated, loved. And if this is lacking, and the effort has faded from your relationship, it can affect how much you fancy having sex. According to the Telegraph, these are …

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Here’s why you can’t allow yourself to be vunerable in bed

“In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”- Sexology (film) Sex is about allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Surrendering, and releasing control. Being pleasured and finding pleasure. It’s about having tousled hair, wild eyes and an open heart. And yet, losing ourselves within sex can …