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Is resentment killing your desire? Here’s how to resolve it.

“Resentment is the persistent feeling that you’re being treated unfairly – not getting due respect, appreciation, affection, help, apology, consideration, praise, or reward.” Steven Sosny Resentment towards our partner can have a major impact on our desire. It’s caused by a suppression of emotion. Perhaps we don’t feel able to say how we feel or there’s …

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Why a lack of seduction might be what’s turning you off, and how to fix it!

For the benefit of the people at the back I present to you exhibit A in the case of the missing sex drive: the phrase… “fancy giving me a blowie?”. If you’ve lost your sex drive, this might be to do with your partners *ahem* less than seductive request for a shag. In fact, this is …

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What is the “Coolidge Effect” and why it might be putting the deep freeze on your hot sex plans.

There is a very stubborn misconception that exists around sex in long term relationships. That good sex will “just happen”. And that if you need to work at it, your relationship or you have somehow failed. However, if you’re finding yourself feeling like the sex has got a little “meh”, or your attraction to your …

Improving sex within a relationship Issues with the sex you are (or were) having​ Relationships Take control of your sex life

How to have more sex by stopping having sex!?

If we don’t fancy having sex, it can get to the point where it’s “a big deal”. We can start associating sexual pressure even with the smallest acts of affection by our partners. It can feel like every single hug, kiss, brush past or shuffle on the sofa has an ulterior motive. We shy away …

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Do you believe these 3 myths about sex? If so, they could be killing your sex drive

There are some really unhelpful beliefs in society about sex, that might be killing your desire. Do you recognize any of them? Myth One: “Foreplay begins just before having sex” We all know the drill right? Women need longer than men to get warmed up for sex- say about 20 minutes of foreplay- so set your …

Debunking relationship and sex myths Improving sex within a relationship Issues with the sex you are (or were) having​ Relationships Too much intimacy

Why a pre-breakfast sex request can spell disaster for your libido

Frosties….. shreddies…. sex? For some women, there are few words in the English language that give them more dread than when their partner utters the phrase: “can we have sex tonight?“. Often casually spoken over the sounds of buttering toast and rustling cereal, a pre-breakfast sex request can be a real turn off. Why can this …

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5 tips on how to talk to your partner about a mismatch in desire

If you’re reading this post, it’s likely that you’ve already communicated with your partner in some way about a mismatch in desire. How did you handle it? Hopefully maturely, sensibly, and with lots of communication. If you’re anything like me, however, it will have gone terribly- crying, silence, denial, anger, frustration, sadness. It’s tough talking …

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“In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”.

“In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”- Sexology (film) Sex is about allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Surrendering and releasing control. Being pleasured and finding pleasure. That ability to be present, to let go and relinquish control, to give over to pleasure and let the waves of sex sweep …

Finding time for sex/to feel sexy Making time for sex Mood/wellbeing Relationships Sex and Stress Take control of your sex life

The major warning sign that you’ve become “too busy” for sex

Do you live life on autopilot- rushing around, always crazy busy, and rarely stopping to breathe? Is sex the last thing you need to tick off on an already long to-do list at the end of each day? Do you end up exhausted, flopping into bed and trying to get yourself psyched up for one …