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How to find out what turns you on How to have better sex How to take control of your sex life/get back your sexual agency How your relationship health impacts on desire, and how to improve it Too much intimacy

Is it really “low desire”, or just low desire for the sex that you’re having?- Dr Lori Brotto

The narrative around low sex drives tends to focus on the woman that’s broken- rather than considering the sex they’re having.  And solutions to a low libido sometimes emphasise having MORE sex. But lets face it, if sex doesn’t feel good- there’s very little reason to want to do it! …

How to have better sex How to take control of your sex life/get back your sexual agency How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality How to wake up your body to sexuality/pleasure Issues with the sex you are (or were) having​ Too little intimacy

How a “pussy massage” can save your sex drive….

Layla Martin, an acclaimed sexuality coach and tantra expert, calls the pussy massage a way to experience “exquisite pleasure and healing”. Before you go to running to the hills at the sound of tantra and pussies and voodoo, give this particular exercise a chance because it can do wonders for …

Anxiety Body Image and self-esteem How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality How to have better sex How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality Learn how to stay present and enjoy sex

#10 tips on how to relax and surrender into sex

It can be incredibly difficult to feel completely relaxed when having sex. Whether that’s because of distracting thoughts or fear of judgement from our partners, actually being ourselves and feeling free in bed seems almost impossible. Below are 10 tried and tested ways to help you feel more relaxed and …

How to ask for what you want (to be sexually assertive) How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality How to have better sex How to take responsibility for your own sexual pleasure

What’s holding you back from speaking out in bed?

If you are totally RUBBISH at talking dirty. Like this kind of level of awkward: Then you’re not alone. So many of us find it tough to “talk dirty”- which basically just means telling our partner what we like/ feels good for us in bed, AKA asking for what we …

How to have better sex How your relationship health impacts on desire, and how to improve it My journey Too little intimacy

Is resentment killing your desire? Here’s how to resolve it.

“Resentment is the persistent feeling that you’re being treated unfairly – not getting due respect, appreciation, affection, help, apology, consideration, praise, or reward.”-Steven Sosny Unresolved resentment we carry towards our partners can have a MAJOR impact on our desire, and yet it’s one we talk about very little. Resentment closes down …

Attraction and the link to desire How to have better sex How your relationship health impacts on desire, and how to improve it

What is the “Coolidge Effect” and why it might be putting the deep freeze on your hot sex plans.

There is a very stubborn misconception that exists around sex in long term relationships. That good sex will “just happen”. And that if you need to work at it, your relationship or you have somehow failed. However, if you’re finding yourself feeling like the sex has got a little “meh”, …

How to have better sex How to take control of your sex life/get back your sexual agency How your relationship health impacts on desire, and how to improve it Issues with the sex you are (or were) having​

How to have more sex by stopping having sex!?

If we don’t fancy having sex, it can get to the point where it’s “a big deal”. We can start associating sexual pressure even with the smallest acts of affection by our partners. It can feel like every single hug, kiss, brush past or shuffle on the sofa has an …

Debunking relationship and sex myths How to have better sex How your relationship health impacts on desire, and how to improve it Issues with the sex you are (or were) having​ Too much intimacy

Why a pre-breakfast sex request can spell disaster for your libido

Frosties….. shreddies…. sex? For some women, there are few words in the English language that give them more dread than when their partner utters the phrase: “can we have sex tonight?“. Often casually spoken over the sounds of buttering toast and rustling cereal, a pre-breakfast sex request can be a real …

Anxiety How to have better sex How to take control of your sex life/get back your sexual agency Issues with the sex you are (or were) having​ Pain or discomfort during sex Sex and Stress Your mood/well-being and the link to your sex drive Your physical health and the link to your sex drive

Are you caught in a sexual avoidance cycle?

 Sometimes we get stuck into patterns and habits around sex that are hard to see, and even harder to break. An incredibly common one is what Jessa Zimmerman calls the “sexual avoidance cycle”. This is how desire is impacted in the longer term by the quality of the sex that …

Anxiety How to have better sex How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality Learn how to stay present and enjoy sex Sex and Stress Too little intimacy Your mood/well-being and the link to your sex drive

“In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”.

“In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”- Sexology (film) Sex is about allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Surrendering and releasing control. Being pleasured and finding pleasure. That ability to be present, to let go and relinquish control, to give over to pleasure and let …