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What’s holding you back from speaking out in bed?

If you are totally RUBBISH at talking dirty. Like this kind of level of awkward: Then you’re not alone. So many of us find it tough to “talk dirty”- which basically just means telling our partner what we like and feels good for us in bed. Let’s get diiiirty However, talking dirty is actually a …

Improving sex within a relationship My journey Relationships Too little intimacy

Is resentment killing your desire? Here’s how to resolve it.

“Resentment is the persistent feeling that you’re being treated unfairly – not getting due respect, appreciation, affection, help, apology, consideration, praise, or reward.” Steven Sosny Resentment towards our partner can have a major impact on our desire. It’s caused by a suppression of emotion. Perhaps we don’t feel able to say how we feel or there’s …

Debunking relationship and sex myths Improving sex within a relationship Relationships

Why a lack of seduction might be what’s turning you off, and how to fix it!

For the benefit of the people at the back I present to you exhibit A in the case of the missing sex drive: the phrase… “fancy giving me a blowie?”. If you’ve lost your sex drive, this might be to do with your partners *ahem* less than seductive request for a shag. In fact, this is …

Attraction Improving sex within a relationship Relationships

What is the “Coolidge Effect” and why it might be putting the deep freeze on your hot sex plans.

There is a very stubborn misconception that exists around sex in long term relationships. That good sex will “just happen”. And that if you need to work at it, your relationship or you have somehow failed. However, if you’re finding yourself feeling like the sex has got a little “meh”, or your attraction to your …

Improving sex within a relationship Issues with the sex you are (or were) having​ Relationships Take control of your sex life

How to have more sex by stopping having sex!?

If we don’t fancy having sex, it can get to the point where it’s “a big deal”. We can start associating sexual pressure even with the smallest acts of affection by our partners. It can feel like every single hug, kiss, brush past or shuffle on the sofa has an ulterior motive. We shy away …

Debunking relationship and sex myths Improving sex within a relationship Issues with the sex you are (or were) having​ Relationships Too much intimacy

Why a pre-breakfast sex request can spell disaster for your libido

Frosties….. shreddies…. sex? For some women, there are few words in the English language that give them more dread than when their partner utters the phrase: “can we have sex tonight?“. Often casually spoken over the sounds of buttering toast and rustling cereal, a pre-breakfast sex request can be a real turn off. Why can this …

Anxiety Improving sex within a relationship Issues with the sex you are (or were) having​ Mood/wellbeing Pain or discomfort during sex Physical health Sex and Stress Take control of your sex life

Are you caught in a sexual avoidance cycle?

 Sometimes we get stuck into patterns and habits around sex that are hard to see, and even harder to break. An incredibly common one is what Jessa Zimmerman calls the “sexual avoidance cycle”. This is how desire is impacted in the longer term by the quality of the sex that we are (or were) having. …

Anxiety Improving sex within a relationship Learning to stay present and enjoy sex Mood/wellbeing Sex and Stress Too little intimacy Waking up to pleasure

“In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”.

“In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”- Sexology (film) Sex is about allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Surrendering and releasing control. Being pleasured and finding pleasure. That ability to be present, to let go and relinquish control, to give over to pleasure and let the waves of sex sweep …

Connecting to your sexuality Improving sex within a relationship Learning to stay present and enjoy sex Understanding how your sex drive works

Six tips to get turned on quickly for those with responsive desire

Many women (about 70%) have a more “slow burn” approach to having sex. If that’s you, you might find that quite often you lack the desire to have sex until after you’ve been warmed up a bit through kissing, touching and foreplay. And that’s totally OK- it’s most of the women in the world that …

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Do you know what your erotic blueprint is?

Have you ever heard of an erotic blueprint? No it’s not some kind of weird newfangled STD all the kids are getting. It’s an amazing (and little-known) way of understanding how you like to be turned on. The sexual blueprint quiz Jaiya, an award-winning sexologist, believes that we each have a way we are intrinsically …