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There are #9 ways we give away our power during sex- here’s what to do to get it back.

“Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.” – Oscar Wilde When you’ve lost your libido, sex can feel a completely disempowering experience. Far from the sexually empowered femme fatales we see in films, flicking their hair and calling the shots, instead we’re scurrying to bed …

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The magic formula for igniting your desire for when sex just isn’t satisfying

Is it really “low desire”, or just low desire for the sex that you’re having?- Dr Lori Brotto When we talk about having a low sex drive, we tends to focus on the woman that’s “broken”. We assume there is something wrong with her- rather than considering the sex she is …

How to get sexy without pressure or expectation How to have better sex How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality How to wake up your body to sexuality/pleasure Issues with the sex you are (or were) having​ Too little intimacy

Try a “pussy massage” when you want to connect but don’t feel like sex….

Layla Martin, an acclaimed sexuality coach and tantra expert, calls the pussy massage a way to experience “exquisite pleasure and healing”. Before you go to running to the hills at the sound of tantra and pussies and voodoo, give this particular exercise a chance because it can do wonders for …

How to ask for what you want (to be sexually assertive) How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality How to find time for sex/to feel sexy How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality How to wake up your mind to sexuality/pleasure

Cheat your way to a great sex drive by scheduling in time to *think* about sex

A low libido often means that we can almost completely stop thinking about sex (as well as experience a diminished desire to have it!). And for many of us, these thoughts aren’t suddenly going to fall from the sky, or turn up behind the sofa along with some loose change and …

How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality How to wake up your mind to sexuality/pleasure

#8 tips to rewire your mind and feel sexually alive again

Often, losing your sex drive means that you rarely (if ever) think about sex. Instead, other thoughts take priority and crowd our brain. Whether we’re meeting a work deadline, planning dinner, organising the children’s week, thoughts about sex often don’t just pop into our heads because they’re too full of …

Anxiety Body Image and self-esteem How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality How to have better sex How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality Learn how to stay present and enjoy sex

#13 tips on how to relax into sex for people who struggle to let go

It can be incredibly difficult to feel completely relaxed when having sex. Whether that’s because of distracting thoughts or fear of judgement from our partners, actually being ourselves and feeling free in bed seems almost impossible. Below are 13 tried and tested ways to help you feel more relaxed and …

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#11 ways to spark desire when your body feels numb and disconnected

Sex is all about sensation.  But if you’ve lost your sex drive, it’s common to feel disconnected from your body, and numb to touch or feeling. Yet it’s something we don’t often talk about! Modern life encourages us to stay inside our own heads- dealing with anxiety, stress, worries about our bodies, or …

How to ask for what you want (to be sexually assertive) How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality How to have better sex How to take responsibility for your own sexual pleasure

How to be honest with yourself about what’s stopping you speaking out in bed?

If you are totally RUBBISH at talking dirty. Like this kind of level of awkward: Then you’re not alone. So many of us find it tough to “talk dirty”- which basically just means telling our partner what we like/ feels good for us in bed, AKA asking for what we …

Anxiety Learn how to stay present and enjoy sex Your mood/well-being and the link to your sex drive

Discover this simple trick to capture anxious thoughts and improve your sex drive

Sex is all about sensation. And if your mind is too full with thoughts- whether anxious, creative, or others- it’s really difficult to focus on the task at hand because we’re stuck in our own heads. When that happens (according to Emily Nagoski), our foot is so far down on …

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7 ways to kick-start desire by using your imagination

Esther Perel believes that what distinguishes humans from animals during sex is that humans have a capacity for eroticism. This is created through imagination. So a decreased desire for sex could be linked to a decrease in the use of your imagination. What is the link between imagination and desire? Strangely, the word …

Exercise How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality How to find time for sex/to feel sexy How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality How to wake up your body to sexuality/pleasure Making time to feel sexy

#5 ways belly dancing will fire up your sex drive

Belly dance originates from the Middle East and is (traditionally) performed to Arabic music. A dance for women and performed at celebrations or social gatherings, it involves isolating parts of the body to create undulating movements that are memorising to watch. Many of us recognise the shimmies, the weaving fingers, …

Anxiety How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality Learn how to stay present and enjoy sex Sex and Stress Your mood/well-being and the link to your sex drive

Could this pesky skill be the cause of your low sex drive?

Multi-tasking and desire Dr Lori Brotto in her book “Better Sex Through Mindfulness” puts “non-arousal” (AKA not being able to get fully in the mood) down to three things because of how these states of being make it hard to focus on the present. Two are covered on the site already- …

How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality Understanding how your sex drive works

Is your sex drive a problem? Here’s a new way to think about it

“Dead bedroom, sexless marriage, low libido, lack of desire.” We’ve got lots of names to describe what happens when we stop wanting sex. And according to science, this is a common phenomenon- about 30–40% of all women have at some point experienced a loss of interest in sex for at least a …