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What’s holding you back from speaking out in bed?

If you are totally RUBBISH at talking dirty. Like this kind of level of awkward: Then you’re not alone. So many of us find it tough to “talk dirty”- which basically just means telling our partner what we like and feels good for us in bed. Let’s get diiiirty However, talking dirty is actually a …

Connecting to your sexuality Exercise Finding time for sex/to feel sexy Making time to feel sexy Waking up to pleasure Waking up your body

5 ways belly dancing can help you regain your sex drive

Belly dance originates from the Middle East and is (traditionally) performed to Arabic music. A dance for women and performed at celebrations or social gatherings, it involves isolating parts of the body to create undulating movements that are memorising to watch. Many of us recognise the shimmies, the weaving fingers, the hip flicks, belly waves …

Anxiety Learning to stay present and enjoy sex Mood/wellbeing Sex and Stress Waking up to pleasure

Could multi-tasking be the cause of your low sex drive?

Multi-tasking and desire Dr Lori Brotto in her book “Better Sex Through Mindfulness” puts “non-arousal” (AKA not being able to get fully in the mood) down to three things because of how these states of being make it hard to focus on the present. Two are covered on the site already- stress and anxiety . But …

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The only book you need to help with a low sex drive: “Come As You Are”, Emily Nagoski

*Note: this post contains affiliate links, so if you purchase anything you click on I might get a few pennies to say cheers* I came across this book online after my frantic googling of “help, I’m not bothered about sex”, and ordered it from Amazon with the hope that something might prove useful. I’d never …

Connecting to your sexuality Debunking relationship and sex myths Relationships Taking responsibility for your own sexual pleasure

Do you believe these 3 myths about sex? If so, they could be killing your sex drive

There are some really unhelpful beliefs in society about sex, that might be killing your desire. Do you recognize any of them? Myth One: “Foreplay begins just before having sex” We all know the drill right? Women need longer than men to get warmed up for sex- say about 20 minutes of foreplay- so set your …

Asking for what you want Relationships Too little intimacy

5 tips on how to talk to your partner about a mismatch in desire

If you’re reading this post, it’s likely that you’ve already communicated with your partner in some way about a mismatch in desire. How did you handle it? Hopefully maturely, sensibly, and with lots of communication. If you’re anything like me, however, it will have gone terribly- crying, silence, denial, anger, frustration, sadness. It’s tough talking …

Anxiety Connecting to your sexuality Learning to stay present and enjoy sex Mood/wellbeing

8 ways that anxiety closes down desire

Whether we’re worried about life generally, or if the thoughts just extend to getting down and diiirty, anxiety can wreak havoc with our sex drive. In fact, being anxious is the literal opposite to being turned on, relaxed and experiencing pleasure. Knowing more about how anxiety affects us, as well as why, can be really …