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Try a “pussy massage” when you want to connect but don’t feel like sex….

Layla Martin, an acclaimed sexuality coach and tantra expert, calls the pussy massage a way to experience “exquisite pleasure and healing”. Before you go to running to the hills at the sound of tantra and pussies and voodoo, give this particular exercise a chance because it can do wonders for …

How to ask for what you want (to be sexually assertive) How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality How to find time for sex/to feel sexy How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality How to wake up your mind to sexuality/pleasure

Cheat your way to a great sex drive by scheduling in time to *think* about sex

A low libido often means that we can almost completely stop thinking about sex (as well as experience a diminished desire to have it!). And for many of us, these thoughts aren’t suddenly going to fall from the sky, or turn up behind the sofa along with some loose change and …

How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality How to wake up your mind to sexuality/pleasure

#8 tips to rewire your mind and feel sexually alive again

Often, losing your sex drive means that you rarely (if ever) think about sex. Instead, other thoughts take priority and crowd our brain. Whether we’re meeting a work deadline, planning dinner, organising the children’s week, thoughts about sex often don’t just pop into our heads because they’re too full of …

Anxiety Body Image and self-esteem How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality How to have better sex How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality Learn how to stay present and enjoy sex

#13 tips on how to relax into sex for people who struggle to let go

It can be incredibly difficult to feel completely relaxed when having sex. Whether that’s because of distracting thoughts or fear of judgement from our partners, actually being ourselves and feeling free in bed seems almost impossible. Below are 13 tried and tested ways to help you feel more relaxed and …

How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality How to wake up your body to sexuality/pleasure

#11 ways to spark desire when your body feels numb and disconnected

Sex is all about sensation.  But if you’ve lost your sex drive, it’s common to feel disconnected from your body, and numb to touch or feeling. Yet it’s something we don’t often talk about! Modern life encourages us to stay inside our own heads- dealing with anxiety, stress, worries about our bodies, or …

Anxiety Learn how to stay present and enjoy sex Your mood/well-being and the link to your sex drive

Discover this simple trick to capture anxious thoughts and improve your sex drive

Sex is all about sensation. And if your mind is too full with thoughts- whether anxious, creative, or others- it’s really difficult to focus on the task at hand because we’re stuck in our own heads. When that happens (according to Emily Nagoski), our foot is so far down on …

How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality How to wake up your mind to sexuality/pleasure

7 ways to kick-start desire by using your imagination

Esther Perel believes that what distinguishes humans from animals during sex is that humans have a capacity for eroticism. This is created through imagination. So a decreased desire for sex could be linked to a decrease in the use of your imagination. What is the link between imagination and desire? Strangely, the word …

Exercise How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality How to find time for sex/to feel sexy How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality How to wake up your body to sexuality/pleasure Making time to feel sexy

#5 ways belly dancing will fire up your sex drive

Belly dance originates from the Middle East and is (traditionally) performed to Arabic music. A dance for women and performed at celebrations or social gatherings, it involves isolating parts of the body to create undulating movements that are memorising to watch. Many of us recognise the shimmies, the weaving fingers, …

Anxiety How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality Learn how to stay present and enjoy sex Sex and Stress Your mood/well-being and the link to your sex drive

Could this pesky skill be the cause of your low sex drive?

Multi-tasking and desire Dr Lori Brotto in her book “Better Sex Through Mindfulness” puts “non-arousal” (AKA not being able to get fully in the mood) down to three things because of how these states of being make it hard to focus on the present. Two are covered on the site already- …

How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality

Here’s why chucking out your old, holey knickers can improve your sex drive!

We’ve all got them. The lurkers at the back of our closets. The last-to-be-picked, laundry day style, whip it out when you’ve got nothing else type of things. I’m talking about bad pants. You know what I mean. The comfort pants. The period pants with suspect stains on them. The …

Anxiety How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality Learn how to stay present and enjoy sex Your mood/well-being and the link to your sex drive

8 ways that anxiety closes down desire

Whether we’re worried about life generally, or if the thoughts just extend to getting down and diiirty, anxiety can wreak havoc with our sex drive. In fact, being anxious is the literal opposite to being turned on, relaxed and experiencing pleasure. Knowing more about how anxiety affects us, as well …

Anxiety How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality Learn how to stay present and enjoy sex Your mood/well-being and the link to your sex drive

4 reasons why you should focus on pleasuring your partner first if you get a bit anxious during sex

Warning: this does rely on having a partner who will pleasure you in return! I know you might not feel like having sex (that’s why you’re here, right?), so I’m sure watching paint dry seems more appealing than giving a blowie… but hear me out first. Our sex drives differ …

Anxiety How to have better sex How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality Learn how to stay present and enjoy sex Sex and Stress Too little intimacy Your mood/well-being and the link to your sex drive

Here’s why you can’t allow yourself to be vunerable in bed

“In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”- Sexology (film) Sex is about allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Surrendering, and releasing control. Being pleasured and finding pleasure. It’s about having tousled hair, wild eyes and an open heart. And yet, losing ourselves within sex can …

Anxiety Food and nutrition How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality Learn how to stay present and enjoy sex My journey Your mood/well-being and the link to your sex drive Your physical health and the link to your sex drive

I gave up coffee to see if it had an impact on my sex drive. Here’s what I found….

For some people (the chosen ones) caffeine does wonders. It helps boost mood, energy levels, productivity,  for some fuckers it even boosts their sex drive. But sadly (cue sad violin music) for others, caffeine is a total bitch, and has links to a decreased sex drive. This is because… It …

Anxiety How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality Learn how to stay present and enjoy sex Your mood/well-being and the link to your sex drive

#5 tried and tested tips to help you turn down the volume of your anxious thoughts and increase your sex drive

Anxiety can be deafening, and makes it difficult to truly focus on and engage with the world around you. Unfortunately, it also wreaks havoc on your sex drive. Worried thoughts completely close down any sense of desire- find out more about why this happens here. Although anxiety can impact you …