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5 ways belly dancing can help you regain your sex drive

Belly dance originates from the Middle East and is (traditionally) performed to Arabic music. A dance for women and performed at celebrations or social gatherings, it involves isolating parts of the body to create undulating movements that are memorising to watch. Many of us recognise the shimmies, the weaving fingers, the hip flicks, belly waves …

Anxiety Learning to stay present and enjoy sex Mood/wellbeing Sex and Stress Waking up to pleasure

Could multi-tasking be the cause of your low sex drive?

Multi-tasking and desire Dr Lori Brotto in her book “Better Sex Through Mindfulness” puts “non-arousal” (AKA not being able to get fully in the mood) down to three things because of how these states of being make it hard to focus on the present. Two are covered on the site already- stress and anxiety . But …

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8 ways that anxiety closes down desire

Whether we’re worried about life generally, or if the thoughts just extend to getting down and diiirty, anxiety can wreak havoc with our sex drive. In fact, being anxious is the literal opposite to being turned on, relaxed and experiencing pleasure. Knowing more about how anxiety affects us, as well as why, can be really …

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4 reasons why you should focus on pleasuring your partner first if you get a bit anxious during sex

Warning: this does rely on having a partner who will pleasure you in return! I know you might not feel like having sex (that’s why you’re here, right?), so I’m sure watching paint dry seems more appealing than giving a blowie… but hear me out first. Our sex drives differ hugely from person to person. …

Anxiety Improving sex within a relationship Learning to stay present and enjoy sex Mood/wellbeing Sex and Stress Too little intimacy Waking up to pleasure

“In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”.

“In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”- Sexology (film) Sex is about allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Surrendering and releasing control. Being pleasured and finding pleasure. That ability to be present, to let go and relinquish control, to give over to pleasure and let the waves of sex sweep …

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I gave up coffee to see if it had an impact on my sex drive. Here’s what I found….

For some people (the chosen ones) caffeine does wonders. It helps boost mood, energy levels, productivity,  for some fuckers it even boosts their sex drive. But sadly (cue sad violin music) for others, caffeine is a total bitch, and has links to a decreased sex drive. This is because… It can increase anxiety: Caffeine can …

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11 tips to help you manage anxiety and increase your sex drive

Anxiety can wreak havoc on your sex drive, with worried thoughts completely closing down any sense of desire. Find out more about why this happens here. Alongside some tips for managing in the moment when you’re worrying, below are some more general ways to help ease anxiety below (including some ideas you might not have …

Connecting to your sexuality Improving sex within a relationship Learning to stay present and enjoy sex Understanding how your sex drive works

Six tips to get turned on quickly for those with responsive desire

Many women (about 70%) have a more “slow burn” approach to having sex. If that’s you, you might find that quite often you lack the desire to have sex until after you’ve been warmed up a bit through kissing, touching and foreplay. And that’s totally OK- it’s most of the women in the world that …

Body Image and self-esteem Connecting to your sexuality Waking up to pleasure Waking up your body

2 fabulous reasons why looking at your vulva can improve your sex drive.

It’s one of the VERY FIRST things that Emily Nagoski’s “Come As You Are” book (AKA the sex drive bible) recommends. Get to know your pussy. Love your famwa. Get intimate with your vagine. And she’s the expert, so its obviously pretty important. Many of us might’ve done the bathroom squat with a hand mirror when …