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Anxiety Feminism How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality Your mood/well-being and the link to your sex drive

Are you “star-fishing” in bed?

Do you know what a starfish is? No, I don’t mean this inoffensive sea creature: I mean the term “starfish” to refer to a woman in bed. The Urban Dictionary definition states that a Starfish is: A female sexual partner who remains ‘unmoved’ during lovemaking, physically non-responsive (like a ….). OR, even …

Debunking relationship and sex myths How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality How to take responsibility for your own sexual pleasure How your relationship health impacts on desire, and how to improve it

Do you believe these 3 myths about sex? If so, they could be killing your sex drive

There are some really unhelpful beliefs in society about sex, that might be killing your desire. Do you recognize any of them? Myth One: “Foreplay begins just before having sex” We all know the drill right? Women need longer than men to get warmed up for sex- say about 20 minutes …

How to ask for what you want (to be sexually assertive) How your relationship health impacts on desire, and how to improve it Too little intimacy

5 tips on how to talk to your partner about a mismatch in desire

If you’re reading this post, it’s likely that you’ve already communicated with your partner in some way about a mismatch in desire. How did you handle it? Hopefully maturely, sensibly, and with lots of communication. If you’re anything like me, however, it will have gone terribly- crying, silence, denial, anger, …

How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality

Here’s why chucking out your old, holey knickers can improve your sex drive!

We’ve all got them. The lurkers at the back of our closets. The last-to-be-picked, laundry day style, whip it out when you’ve got nothing else type of things. I’m talking about bad pants. You know what I mean. The comfort pants. The period pants with suspect stains on them. The …

Anxiety How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality Learn how to stay present and enjoy sex Your mood/well-being and the link to your sex drive

8 ways that anxiety closes down desire

Whether we’re worried about life generally, or if the thoughts just extend to getting down and diiirty, anxiety can wreak havoc with our sex drive. In fact, being anxious is the literal opposite to being turned on, relaxed and experiencing pleasure. Knowing more about how anxiety affects us, as well …

Anxiety How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality Learn how to stay present and enjoy sex Your mood/well-being and the link to your sex drive

4 reasons why you should focus on pleasuring your partner first if you get a bit anxious during sex

Warning: this does rely on having a partner who will pleasure you in return! I know you might not feel like having sex (that’s why you’re here, right?), so I’m sure watching paint dry seems more appealing than giving a blowie… but hear me out first. Our sex drives differ …

Anxiety How to have better sex How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality Learn how to stay present and enjoy sex Sex and Stress Too little intimacy Your mood/well-being and the link to your sex drive

“In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”.

“In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”- Sexology (film) Sex is about allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Surrendering and releasing control. Being pleasured and finding pleasure. That ability to be present, to let go and relinquish control, to give over to pleasure and let …

Anxiety Food and nutrition How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality Learn how to stay present and enjoy sex My journey Your mood/well-being and the link to your sex drive Your physical health and the link to your sex drive

I gave up coffee to see if it had an impact on my sex drive. Here’s what I found….

For some people (the chosen ones) caffeine does wonders. It helps boost mood, energy levels, productivity,  for some fuckers it even boosts their sex drive. But sadly (cue sad violin music) for others, caffeine is a total bitch, and has links to a decreased sex drive. This is because… It …

Anxiety How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality Learn how to stay present and enjoy sex Your mood/well-being and the link to your sex drive

11 tips to help you manage anxiety and increase your sex drive

Anxiety can wreak havoc on your sex drive, with worried thoughts completely closing down any sense of desire. Find out more about why this happens here. Alongside some tips for managing in the moment when you’re worrying, below are some more general ways to help ease anxiety below (including some …

How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality How to have better sex Learn how to stay present and enjoy sex Understanding how your sex drive works

Six tips to get turned on quickly for those with responsive desire

Many women (about 70%) have a more “slow burn” approach to having sex. If that’s you, you might find that quite often you lack the desire to have sex until after you’ve been warmed up a bit through kissing, touching and foreplay. And that’s totally OK- it’s most of the …

How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality How to wake up your mind to sexuality/pleasure Making time to feel sexy

5 TV shows that’ll give you the fanny gallops

A brilliant way to get sex back on your agenda when you have a low sex drive is to watch a TV show featuring lots of, you guessed it, sex. That’ll revive your vagina in no time, because it’s encouraging you to remember sex- to keep it on your radar, …

How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality My journey Understanding how your sex drive works

You’re not broken: here’s why we need to change the language about having a “low sex drive”

Step one of embarking on a journey to find your sex drive is to consider whether it’s really lost. A personal story of mine is pretty relevant here. I was talking with my boyfriend recently, and I kept saying I’d “lost” my desire to have sex, and I needed to …

Body Image and self-esteem How to be sexually authentic/connect to your sexuality How to wake up to pleasure/sexuality How to wake up your body to sexuality/pleasure

2 fabulous reasons why looking at your vulva can improve your sex drive.

It’s one of the VERY FIRST things that Emily Nagoski’s “Come As You Are” book (AKA the sex drive bible) recommends. Get to know your pussy. Love your famwa. Get intimate with your vagine. And she’s the expert, so its obviously pretty important. Many of us might’ve done the bathroom squat …