Showing: 1 - 13 of 13 RESULTS
Anxiety Learning to stay present and enjoy sex Mood/wellbeing Sex and Stress Waking up to pleasure

Could multi-tasking be the cause of your low sex drive?

Multi-tasking and desire Dr Lori Brotto in her book “Better Sex Through Mindfulness” puts “non-arousal” (AKA not being able to get fully in the mood) down to three things because of how these states of being make it hard to focus on the present. Two are covered on the site already- stress and anxiety . But …

Anxiety Improving sex within a relationship Issues with the sex you are (or were) having​ Mood/wellbeing Pain or discomfort during sex Physical health Sex and Stress Take control of your sex life

Are you caught in a sexual avoidance cycle?

 Sometimes we get stuck into patterns and habits around sex that are hard to see, and even harder to break. An incredibly common one is what Jessa Zimmerman calls the “sexual avoidance cycle”. This is how desire is impacted in the longer term by the quality of the sex that we are (or were) having. …

Anxiety Connecting to your sexuality Learning to stay present and enjoy sex Mood/wellbeing

8 ways that anxiety closes down desire

Whether we’re worried about life generally, or if the thoughts just extend to getting down and diiirty, anxiety can wreak havoc with our sex drive. In fact, being anxious is the literal opposite to being turned on, relaxed and experiencing pleasure. Knowing more about how anxiety affects us, as well as why, can be really …

Anxiety Learning to stay present and enjoy sex Mood/wellbeing Waking up to pleasure

4 reasons why you should focus on pleasuring your partner first if you get a bit anxious during sex

Warning: this does rely on having a partner who will pleasure you in return! I know you might not feel like having sex (that’s why you’re here, right?), so I’m sure watching paint dry seems more appealing than giving a blowie… but hear me out first. Our sex drives differ hugely from person to person. …

Anxiety Improving sex within a relationship Learning to stay present and enjoy sex Mood/wellbeing Sex and Stress Too little intimacy Waking up to pleasure

“In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”.

“In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”- Sexology (film) Sex is about allowing yourself to be vulnerable. Surrendering and releasing control. Being pleasured and finding pleasure. That ability to be present, to let go and relinquish control, to give over to pleasure and let the waves of sex sweep …

Anxiety Food and nutrition Learning to stay present and enjoy sex Mood/wellbeing My journey Physical health Waking up to pleasure

I gave up coffee to see if it had an impact on my sex drive. Here’s what I found….

For some people (the chosen ones) caffeine does wonders. It helps boost mood, energy levels, productivity,  for some fuckers it even boosts their sex drive. But sadly (cue sad violin music) for others, caffeine is a total bitch, and has links to a decreased sex drive. This is because… It can increase anxiety: Caffeine can …

Anxiety Connecting to your sexuality Learning to stay present and enjoy sex Mood/wellbeing

11 tips to help you manage anxiety and increase your sex drive

Anxiety can wreak havoc on your sex drive, with worried thoughts completely closing down any sense of desire. Find out more about why this happens here. Alongside some tips for managing in the moment when you’re worrying, below are some more general ways to help ease anxiety below (including some ideas you might not have …

Anxiety Body Image and self-esteem Exercise Mood/wellbeing Physical health Sex and Stress

Exercise: the key to reviving desire?

We know we know. There’s health benefits. Its good for us. We’ll get a bikini body. Minimize cellulite and live a longer life… It’s all well and good having that knowledge, but actually exercising and getting out there to do it, well… for some of us, that’s easier said that done. However, if you’re experiencing …