Anxiety, Physical/medical health, Your mental/emotional wellbeing

Female performance anxiety and desire

I recently posted about realising I have female performance anxiety (FPA). It was never something I thought would apply to me. Isn’t it only blokes not being able to get hard??! However, since researching more about the issue, I found this Bustle article  which really brought to life the impact FPA has on desire. Read on to… Read More Female performance anxiety and desire

Anxiety, Physical/medical health, Your mental/emotional wellbeing

Four reasons why you should focus on pleasuring your partner first if you’ve got a low sex drive

Warning: this does rely on having a partner who will pleasure you in return! I know you might not feel like having sex (that’s why you’re here, right?), so I’m sure watching paint dry seems more appealing than giving a blowie… but hear me out first. Our sex drives differ hugely from person to person.… Read More Four reasons why you should focus on pleasuring your partner first if you’ve got a low sex drive

Anxiety, Staying present during sex/foreplay, Stress, Your ability to stay present

“In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”.

After watching a film called Sexology (which I’d thoroughly recommend despite the cheese) I realised that a HUGE part of sex is about letting go, relaxing, and just enjoying. One of the women in the film states: “In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”. This resonated with me so deeply. It’s about… Read More “In sex, you need to let yourself go… to the point of foolishness”.

Anxiety, Physical/medical health, Your mental/emotional wellbeing

I gave up coffee to see if it had an impact on my sex drive. Here’s what I found….

For some people (the chosen ones) caffeine does wonders. It helps boost mood, energy levels, productivity,  for some fuckers it even boosts their sex drive. But sadly (cue sad violin music) for others, caffeine is a total bitch, and has links to a decreased sex drive. This is because… It can increase anxiety: Caffeine can… Read More I gave up coffee to see if it had an impact on my sex drive. Here’s what I found….

Anxiety, Physical/medical health, Your mental/emotional wellbeing

5 ways that anxiety impacts on your sex drive

I come from an anxious family. We’re door lock checkers, sun tan lotion smotherers, insomniacs, and chuck in the random obsessional thoughts about killing family members- yep, that’s us. We’re really popular people 😉 I worry about ridiculous things- whether my friends like me, whether I’m boring, if I put too many exclamation marks in… Read More 5 ways that anxiety impacts on your sex drive