Blogging

Losing your desire to have sex is like losing the desire to blog. Here’s how to combat both.

Recently I’ve realised that writing is a little bit like sex. Both are a space for expression- a chance to be creative, passionate, to find our own voice or way of being. Typing and thrusting can have the same urgency, a desire to find the right word, the right touch or position, the best way… Read More Losing your desire to have sex is like losing the desire to blog. Here’s how to combat both.

How to discover (or rekindle) your sexual identity, Understanding how your sex drive works

The five thieves of desire

If you’ve been following this blog for a while you’ll know that I’ve experienced issues with my sex drive for nearly three years now. The problem is mainly, being young (31!) but not ever really wanting or feeling bothered about sex. Lacking desire feels like you’ve lost that spark that makes you human. It’s tough,… Read More The five thieves of desire

How to discover (or rekindle) your sexual identity, Understanding how your sex drive works

What drives us to actually WANT to have sex?

HAVE YOU EVER REALLY THOUGHT ABOUT IT? Because when you really don’t fancy having it, and you feel like an alien human species being the only one who doesn’t seem to understand what all the fuss is about (or feeling sad because you do but you can’t work out why you don’t want to), it’s useful to… Read More What drives us to actually WANT to have sex?

How to discover (or rekindle) your sexual identity, Understanding how your sex drive works

What does it mean to be “aroused”?

So, this blog post is on arousal. You might know by now that desire for sex may come *after* arousal for some women (if you didn’t know this, read here). Therefore, knowing what arousal is, and the physical sensations and changes that happen to our bodies, is crucial for understanding more about our sex drives.… Read More What does it mean to be “aroused”?

My journey

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step: deciding to change is the hardest part.

The biggest thing I’ve learned so far about having a low sex drive is: YOU have to decide you WANT a good sex drive, and commit to improving it. Don’t get me wrong, for many people a lack of sex drive is a medical one like hormones, physical illness or injury, and requires medication and… Read More A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step: deciding to change is the hardest part.