If you’ve been following my blog for a while you’ll know that I’m on a hunt to re-establish my sexuality. Namely, my sex drive. It vanished into a poof of caffeine-filled, adrenaline-spiked, stress-fed busyness about two years ago, and ever since I’ve been trying to find it. Part of that search has been understanding how to express myself in bed. AKA being sexually assertive and telling others what I want and need. I’ve spent the last year as basically the 2018 Dorothy and Toto, meeting friends along the way who’ve helped me learn more about sex, my body, pleasure and countless other magical mystery tips to find my way home…
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The awkward girl’s guide to dirty talk
One of my most vivid memories of shared living was hearing my housemate banging a guy she’d picked up in a club at 3am. The noises coming from our (shared) bathroom were so loud I cringed under the covers in my room. I did admire her in a lot of ways- she was just in the moment, having an excellent time, and pissed as a fart so wasn’t aware of the level of decibels echoing around the flat. What I did think however was she sounded like a cheap porno. Maybe it got him off? (Infact it definintely got him off. I heard every squelchy second of it). But more…