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#10 tips on how to relax and surrender into sex

It can be incredibly difficult to feel completely relaxed when having sex. Whether that’s because of distracting thoughts or fear of judgement from our partners, actually being ourselves and feeling free in bed seems almost impossible. Below are 10 tried and tested ways to help you feel more relaxed and …

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Waking up your body to desire is a powerful method to improve your sex drive. Here are #11 ways to get you started.

Sex is all about sensation, strokes, kisses and feeling. But sometimes our bodies can seem numb to desire and touch. If you experience anxiety, stress, worries about your body, or just struggle to stay focussed during sex, its easy to feel locked inside your own head and unable to engage with the sensations or enjoyment of …

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What’s holding you back from speaking out in bed?

If you are totally RUBBISH at talking dirty. Like this kind of level of awkward: Then you’re not alone. So many of us find it tough to “talk dirty”- which basically just means telling our partner what we like/ feels good for us in bed, AKA asking for what we …

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7 ways to kick-start desire by using your imagination

Esther Perel believes that what distinguishes humans from animals during sex is that humans have a capacity for eroticism. This is created through imagination. So a decreased desire for sex could be linked to a decrease in the use of your imagination. What is the link between imagination and desire? Strangely, the word …

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5 ways belly dancing can help you regain your sex drive

Belly dance originates from the Middle East and is (traditionally) performed to Arabic music. A dance for women and performed at celebrations or social gatherings, it involves isolating parts of the body to create undulating movements that are memorising to watch. Many of us recognise the shimmies, the weaving fingers, …

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Is resentment killing your desire? Here’s how to resolve it.

“Resentment is the persistent feeling that you’re being treated unfairly – not getting due respect, appreciation, affection, help, apology, consideration, praise, or reward.”-Steven Sosny Unresolved resentment we carry towards our partners can have a MAJOR impact on our desire, and yet it’s one we talk about very little. Resentment closes down …

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What is the “Coolidge Effect” and why it might be putting the deep freeze on your hot sex plans.

There is a very stubborn misconception that exists around sex in long term relationships. That good sex will “just happen”. And that if you need to work at it, your relationship or you have somehow failed. However, if you’re finding yourself feeling like the sex has got a little “meh”, …

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How the 5 Love Languages can help you communicate whats missing in your relationship

Do you know how you give and receive love? There are apparently five main ways we do so in our relationships. These are known as the Five Love Languages, developed by Gary Chapman. And they can seriously improve your relationship AND your sex life. Now, you might think- how can …

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How to have more sex by stopping having sex!?

If we don’t fancy having sex, it can get to the point where it’s “a big deal”. We can start associating sexual pressure even with the smallest acts of affection by our partners. It can feel like every single hug, kiss, brush past or shuffle on the sofa has an …

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Could multi-tasking be the cause of your low sex drive?

Multi-tasking and desire Dr Lori Brotto in her book “Better Sex Through Mindfulness” puts “non-arousal” (AKA not being able to get fully in the mood) down to three things because of how these states of being make it hard to focus on the present. Two are covered on the site already- …