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How a “pussy massage” can save your sex drive….

Layla Martin, an acclaimed sexuality coach and tantra expert, calls the pussy massage a way to experience “exquisite pleasure and healing”. Before you go to running to the hills at the sound of tantra and pussies and voodoo, give this particular exercise a chance because it can do wonders for desire.  Have a read below …

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Cheat your way to a great sex drive by scheduling in time to *think* about sex

A low libido often means that we can almost completely stop thinking about sex (as well as experience a diminished desire to have it!). And for many of us, these thoughts aren’t suddenly going to fall from the sky, or turn up behind the sofa along with some loose change and the remote control without a …

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How to wake up your mind to desire

Often, losing your sex drive means that you rarely (if ever) think about sex. Instead, other thoughts take priority and crowd our brain. Whether we’re meeting a work deadline, planning dinner, organising the children’s week, thoughts about sex often don’t just pop into our heads because they’re too full of everything else! For many women, …

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#10 tips on how to relax and surrender into sex

It can be incredibly difficult to feel completely relaxed when having sex. Whether that’s because of distracting thoughts or fear of judgement from our partners, actually being ourselves and feeling free in bed seems almost impossible. Below are 10 tried and tested ways to help you feel more relaxed and enjoy losing yourself in the …

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Waking up your body to desire is a powerful method to improve your sex drive. Here are #11 ways to get you started.

Sex is all about sensation, strokes, kisses and feeling. But sometimes our bodies can seem numb to desire and touch. If you experience anxiety, stress, worries about your body, or just struggle to stay focussed during sex, its easy to feel locked inside your own head and unable to engage with the sensations or enjoyment of making love. Dr Lori Brotto …

Asking for what you want Connecting to your sexuality Improving sex within a relationship Taking responsibility for your own sexual pleasure

What’s holding you back from speaking out in bed?

If you are totally RUBBISH at talking dirty. Like this kind of level of awkward: Then you’re not alone. So many of us find it tough to “talk dirty”- which basically just means telling our partner what we like and feels good for us in bed. Let’s get diiiirty However, talking dirty is actually a …

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5 ways belly dancing can help you regain your sex drive

Belly dance originates from the Middle East and is (traditionally) performed to Arabic music. A dance for women and performed at celebrations or social gatherings, it involves isolating parts of the body to create undulating movements that are memorising to watch. Many of us recognise the shimmies, the weaving fingers, the hip flicks, belly waves …

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Could multi-tasking be the cause of your low sex drive?

Multi-tasking and desire Dr Lori Brotto in her book “Better Sex Through Mindfulness” puts “non-arousal” (AKA not being able to get fully in the mood) down to three things because of how these states of being make it hard to focus on the present. Two are covered on the site already- stress and anxiety . But …

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The only book you need to help with a low sex drive: “Come As You Are”, Emily Nagoski

*Note: this post contains affiliate links, so if you purchase anything you click on I might get a few pennies to say cheers* I came across this book online after my frantic googling of “help, I’m not bothered about sex”, and ordered it from Amazon with the hope that something might prove useful. I’d never …